Cancel culture is utterly narcissistic

They dehumanization of the world.

Jan 30, 2023

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I’ve been reading a lot of HG Tudor’s work on narcissism over the past several weeks. I find his work fascinating because (a) I’m absolutely sure he is what he says he is (a narcissistic psychopath that is fully aware of why he does what he does) and (b) I’m absolutely sure it’s the most accurate work that exists about narcissistic personality disorder on the planet.

His work has not only given me a greater understanding not only of the narcissists I’ve had in my life, but has also informed my perspective on the world that I primarily operate in these days - the culture wars. I understand and appreciate the woke left on a whole new level how, both the ways in which they are like narcissists (which are plentiful) and the ways they are unlike narcissists (also plentiful).

But it’s also just incredibly insightful about human nature…which seems odd because he isn’t even capable of experiencing the full breadth of human emotions!

I’m not a person that will vilify someone for being a narcissist. I think the term is thrown around far too much as an insult, just like the woke left throws around the term racist and the woke right throws around the term groomer. Hurl something as an insult towards anyone you happen to disagree with and you will quickly take its meaning away.

I think the life of a narcissist is a sad one for many reasons. A narcissist only becomes a narcissist due to a combination of nature (one of their parents is probably a narcissist) and nurture (they were put in situations as a child when their basic needs for love and protection were not fulfilled). The right combination of those two factors will lead to this person developing this disorder in childhood and will likely have it their entire lives. Narcissists don’t want to be cured - either they are completely unaware that their perspective and behaviors are driven by the disorder in the first place (their narcissism won’t let them see themselves as imperfect) or, in the rare instances that they are aware, they believe they are the superior human being.

They do not feel like we do. They can never love. They must use people every day to reinforce their self-construct. I state these facts as objective truths, not as insults.

And who’s really to say what’s good and bad, I suppose. It’s not my place to tell anyone how to live their life or what’s best for them any more than it’s their place to tell me how to live mine.

But I’ll tell you, the more I read his content, the most plastic the world seems to me.

Or, perhaps, not the whole world. Just the world I happen to spend the most time in.

The political right has decided to cancel Eliza Bleu in the last few weeks. Eliza has a past and may have fabricated things regarding whether or not she was the victim of human trafficking. And then she got the accounts locked of a few whiny influencers and that was apparently enough to wipe out all of the legitimately good work she’s done in regard to fighting sex trafficking and child porn on Twitter.

To me, this just looks like another case of the political right-eating someone that is on their team for no good reason.

Everyone has a past. And I promise you that if you expect your influencers to be perfect or to pass some sort of purity test, you will always end up disappointed.

What, exactly, is being gained by canceling her?

Nothing.

What is being lost?

Someone who was legitimately doing work to fight trafficking and abuse.

No one else was spreading awareness like Eliza was/is/will hopefully continue to do.

The reason they’re eating her alive is that she was getting too much attention.

So they found a flaw, something juicy that would distract the sheepish masses. Then they poke on it. They engage in a massive campaign of confirmation bias to show you selective evidence that re-inforces the flaw, while ignoring the mountains of evidence that contradict it.

Remember, this isn’t about the truth. It’s about forming an effective cancel mob. The truth is always more complex than what the cancel mob requires to do their work.

Their only goal is to paint the person as black for the masses. A horrible, evil, lying, deprave degenerate who had just been fooling them the whole time.

Really, the masses are all a victim of this person and their flaws or imperfections.

After all, in order to have a platform you have to be perfect and completely morally pure.

No one who is flawed is allowed to have a platform or to do activism of any sort.

It’s a law somewhere, apparently. Not being perfect will get you canceled, you can bet on it.

Here’s my point.

Isn’t it narcissistic as fuck to cancel someone when they start to get too much attention for your liking?

Narcissists have to believe they are perfect human beings that are better than everyone at every possible thing, are always #1, are entitled to be picked first, and are inherently deserving of everyone’s admiration by sheer virtue of existing.

So if someone else is getting attention for whatever reason, that must be stopped. The narcissist must always be the center of attention. If that means “accidentally” dropping someone’s birthday cake and ruining their day, so be it. All attention is positive attention.

If canceling someone gets you more attention because they get less and you get lots and lots of fuel by complaining about how the mean Twitters locked your account and demanded you delete a tweet, how dare they, then that is a win. It doesn’t matter that you had to do something really shitty to get that win.

And not only that, you get the mobbing going by identifying imperfections in that person’s life that they are (apparently) not allowed to have.

Spoiler alert, kids: Human beings make mistakes. They do stupid things when they are younger. The average person makes pretty drastic life changes every 5-8 years, which means they left an old them behind. If you expect them to be that person forever, it’s just unrealistic.

But when you decide that person isn’t perfect enough for you and work to cancel them, you rely on convincing hundreds or thousands of people that that person is imperfect too.

It’s narcissistic as fuck to expect people to exist without flaws.

It’s unrealistic. You’re either a human being or you’re a robot.